Seriously, it knows what it’s doing. A real-world take on aparigraha.

“Everything that’s meant for you is already circling. The work is to stop holding the door shut with your fear.”

Lately, I’ve been sitting with this question:
What if I just relaxed and acted as if everything I dream has already happened?
Not in a delusional, bypassing way—but in a deep, anchored faith that things are unfolding as they need to.

And if that’s true how would I act?

I’d have more fun.
I’d take bolder steps.
I’d stop trying so hard to be heard or seen.
I’d stop gripping. Stop managing. Stop shape-shifting to keep everyone else happy.

That’s aparigraha.
One of the five yamas in the yogic tradition, aparigraha is the practice of non-grasping. Of letting go—of stuff, stories, roles, expectations.

And it’s not just something we contemplate in philosophy discussions in our Yoga Teacher training program.

It’s something we practice. Every day. Especially on the mat.

“Just show up. Get on your mat. And see what happens.”

This is something I say every time we begin a Mysore-style class at the studio.

It sounds simple. But it’s actually a radical practice in letting go.

You don’t know how the practice will feel that day. You don’t know if your body will cooperate, if your mind will settle, if you’ll “get anywhere.” You show up anyway. No force. No expectation. Just presence.

As James McCrae says:
“The irony is that everything falls into place when you stop trying to micromanage the process and allow life to unfold without force or expectations.”

In Mysore practice, there’s no one-size-fits-all sequence pumped out by a teacher at the front. It’s a self-paced, breath-led exploration. You move. You pause. You get help. You breathe. You learn to listen to your body in its language, noone elses.

And you start to realise something deeply liberating:

Not every moment will unfold the way you want—and that’s okay. It’s actually the point.
You don’t need to control or explain or justify—you just need to be there and go through it.

Pranayama: Trust in Every Breath

Breath is the most honest teacher of aparigraha.

You can’t force an exhale. You can’t cling to an inhale.
Breath teaches you to receive what’s here and let go when it’s time.

In pranayama, we practice this surrender again and again.
Let the breath come. Let it go. Feel the space in between.

It’s a quiet reminder that you don’t need to hold it all together. You don’t need to cling to every moment.
There’s a rhythm already guiding you—and it’s okay to trust it. All you need to be is honest with yourself.

Community: Letting Go, Together

The truth is, we don’t practice this stuff in a vacuum.

We do it in a room with others who are also learning how to soften, breathe, show up, and let go.

When you’re surrounded by people choosing presence over perfection, something shifts.
You remember you’re not alone. You feel held—without anyone needing to fix or change you.

This is the magic of practicing in community:

• You see others struggling and staying.
  
• You witness others resting, modifying, or crying quietly in Savasana.
  
• You realise everyone is working on or through something—and still showing up.

That’s real-life aparigraha. Not some distant ideal. A lived experience of shared, imperfect, messy, honest practice.

So… What If You Trusted It’s Already Happening?

If you knew everything was going to be okay…
If you knew what’s meant for you is already finding its way…
How would you act?

Would you soften your grip?
Would you stop fighting to be seen?

Would you have more fun?
Would you finally let go of the weight of doing it all and let life meet you halfway?

That’s the invitation.
Not just in yoga. But in life.So come.
Show up. Get on your mat. See what happens.